a friend of a friend ( who is dead ) came over to see me recently - he is the only one remaining single - everybody else is either married or dead.
he is also one of the few who still live in NYC ( everybody else moved to NJ, Florida or Texas ).
this is why i need to move to Tampa - so my friends stop asking when i will come to visit them LOL.
you need connections ( networking ), not "friends"
the art is how you manage that distinction because it can't be fully separated ... you can't trust people who are only in it for money and on other hand people who you only know because you smoke pot or drink together aren't very useful ...
other things are messy like this too - you can't get extreme in these things - you have to look for some kind of balance ...
i would say you probably want to stay in touch with everybody who can be of value such as friends and family but not so close that you are weighed down by their problems and limitations ... that is the easy part
the hard part is finding something to bond over with people who are killing it in your field ...
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2024-09-19 18:21:19
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