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Last Notes npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r Kyle Miller Narcissists isolate you for control and power. It's their best trick to have continuous endless supply. The more you feel this way, the less you'll try to get out of the situation. It's not easy, but we must break free and find support. Good people are ready to help when you do! #grownostr https://nostrcheck.me/media/0702e8618bdd5aae78dfd6dc22d7c2f3baca4ae450a52cfc86d1519e21ec325b/63f8a5dd20744139a642520c4279a57168f0ece93d2c65d3460e39f5c1c7f27e.webp npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r Kyle Miller After all, this is how they gain and keep supply. The only time they seem to care about us is when we are giving them the supply they want. Healthy, caring people don't want to have control or power over you. Find these people and let the rest go. They don't deserve you! #grownostr https://image.nostr.build/f384feaca611289d8072d0a889d7dba50fcadc6d7464a77c289bc9e628cb3d9c.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r Kyle Miller Narcissists will expect accountability for everyone else except themselves. No one including themselves will ever hold them accountable. This would allow them to show they are human, rather than the perfection they try to portray to the outside world. #grownostr https://image.nostr.build/0dae8f651841f285a30d6e1a0f52cb8f07dd4e092d8ed275b4366c326435eb63.jpg npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r Kyle Miller Toxic people are often good to us for a time or a reason. This doesn't mean they are good for us no matter what they've done for us. Good people will not allow you to be beholden to them. Narcissists feel they're entitled for you to be beholden to them. Know the difference. #grownostr https://image.nostr.build/47fc8b6881c00e8712f38dbc085df2a91bfebad64909fbc909669db31412b024.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r Kyle Miller Narcissists don't actually give real support, but any support they ever do give is if they think what you're doing will give them more. More of your money, supply and resources. After all, they believe they are entitled to everything and you will give up everything. #grownostr https://files.v0l.io/334a5714fe3d14169e651016d8284cba42ddcc422683b5f0f9286b42ea4c64d2.webp npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r Kyle Miller They will tell the story that makes them look the best and gives them the most control whether they have to make part or all of it up. Nothing is off limits for them, unless you bring it up. Own your truth and hold your boundaries. This is the only way to deal with them. #grownostr https://nostrcheck.me/media/0702e8618bdd5aae78dfd6dc22d7c2f3baca4ae450a52cfc86d1519e21ec325b/d14070dcea00fee1fc48eb4f9cfd9b83e6d17f7732f9e6e84ee0864acf38d1fc.webp npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r Kyle Miller It's either to make them look good, or to put blame on someone else. Nothing is reality to them other than reflection. How they look, how everyone else makes them look and how to reflect all the blame for everything on everyone else in their life. #grownostr https://image.nostr.build/1e17b785f74ba7c2722cc5549a34e82e233112316bab4748c56258ec05caec4b.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r Kyle Miller It sounds confusing because it is. They often mean everything to us until we see the truth. We also mean nothing to them if we're not being the perfect supply and these are only fleeting moments. The missing piece is us learning to love ourselves. Then we can let go of emptiness. #grownostr https://image.nostr.build/ed9ce0bd6cf54ba45058e836db5b3f7d52f42f825c2489e5a998033ab0296975.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r Kyle Miller A boundary for you is something they want to destroy. Not just to control you, but also dysregulate you in the process of destroying your boundaries. This puts you off balance and makes it much easier to manipulate you to whatever they want. It's all a plan for control! #grownostr https://image.nostr.build/c6604ea3f6728ea01ae534ae1eebe8f8504512ee2291fcabab84c1f57a6396e5.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r Kyle Miller The only thing genuine is they are genuinely narcissists. They are always the best or the worst depending on the reaction they're trying to manipulate you into. They will put on a full show every time to get what they want and it's almost believable until you can see behind the mask. #grownostr https://image.nostr.build/49f71cf0c669ead183e96c26b105944562bdaf46f499cbdef54c81ba3d1267b9.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r Kyle Miller Even when narcissists seem to get away with everything in the short term. In the long term they end up burning every relationship they have and die alone, miserable and lonely. They are perpetual victims of their own demise and it follows them through their lives. #grownostr https://image.nostr.build/b746acb9e1922fa75a233171954c6682aa23e6e0ebbc308e6d43e7ca3f6a5763.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r Kyle Miller You'll never be able to fully express or embody your true self around narcissists. It will never be safe. You'll always have to tone yourself down in every aspect or they will cut you down, even if they've built you up. You must leave at least emotionally if you can't physically. #grownostr https://image.nostr.build/ae35b9767f053b1bb05d3f667c707791845bf971a21b0f53fc1fb89b59fd5f84.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r Kyle Miller Most of it is about shame. It's much easier for a narcissist to find something to shame you about, than ever face the shame they feel. They want you to feel worse, so they feel less bad. They don't want to and are unwilling to do the work to feel better themselves and there's nothing you can do about it. #grownostr https://image.nostr.build/0fb28b920035cae53c65c75eb4e5b8329d09967f7305a1c8b96145483d68fc12.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r Kyle Miller Contrary to the popular belief, narcissists don't love themselves. They love the illusion they create of the wonderful person they want people to think they are. They of course don't care about actually becoming this, just everyone else having this image of them. #grownostr https://image.nostr.build/ce90149f7f6adc4e0b1524c3b52da90f8b51ef13480185703ccb646d9312e82f.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r Kyle Miller The worst part of projection from a narcissist is the way they twist it in a way that we begin to believe it's our own thoughts. Whether it's our beliefs about ourselves or the things they are doing to us. Everything will be put on us in an attempt for us to believe it about ourselves. #grownostr https://image.nostr.build/8f96c029f059efadc61fabf4f2cadd32976ad17a2ba1dd4d4b8dec1cc5093909.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r Kyle Miller Or at least this is what most people think. They actually don't love themselves or anyone else. Their only love is of more supply. Since there's never enough of more, their life is an endless meaningless pursuit of taking everything they can from everyone only to still feel empty! #grownostr https://image.nostr.build/e447d8ac790f74e7a663e5ede2c59f20dd91f3dd01f4e01d51f028eda2a4870b.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r Kyle Miller No one is truly safe around narcissists. Collateral damage is a constant around them if you're fortunate not to be the target. No one is innocent in their world except for them. There's no length they won't go to to get what they want even if it destroys them in the process. #grownostr https://image.nostr.build/0cc22b2cc7c70df7643bf40c33d34a2ecd1a4bd495563400aa3c194076aa5c67.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r Kyle Miller Narcissists thrive on making others feel small by undermining their confidence and self-worth. They manipulate, belittle, and devalue others to maintain a sense of superiority and control. This allows them to feed their own ego while keeping others dependent and insecure. #grownostr https://image.nostr.build/621ab3af0b245903cc405fa37279336adf575976eab709ea090fb244882a0b6d.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r Kyle Miller Thank you so much! npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r Kyle Miller The only history that matters is the one that makes them look good and innocent. It doesn't matter if they have to reframe, manipulate or flat out lie. They will never be accountable for anything even, and especially when there's clear proof. It will be erased or ignored. #grownostr https://image.nostr.build/31fc731982789ab884149a937a9ab85e98741568d0caef1c8571e449908ae0bb.png